10 Essential Army Wife Books for $25 (total!)

After receiving the Army Wife Handbook (2007), and flipping through it’s 432 pages, I was immensely grateful for the wealth of knowledge it provided on protocol and etiquette. It’s not for everyone. And more importantly, it doesn’t cover a lot of the most basic necessities of Army knowledge. It doesn’t give suggestions on how to deal with understanding the dynamics of separation and long distance relationships, or how to face your husband’s reintegration after deployment, or how to feel as calm as the face you put on by grounding yourself in your faith. It doesn’t really cover the one million and one sticky situations that come up in FRGs or how to strike the balance between by-the-book prim and proper and seeming too casual and disrespectful (because you will be judged for going too far in either direction, let’s be honest). Here are the best resources I have found to fill in the knowledge gaps.

General
Everyone Serves: A Handbook for Family and Friends of Service Members (Free)

This e-book and website are a collaboration between DCoE, PBS, and Blue Star Families, to help everyone who loves a service member understand what is going on, for parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends and neighbors.

Etiquette

Service Etiquette, 5th Ed (recommend buying used)
This is probably the most in-depth guide to military-related etiquette I’ve seen, and this most recent edition covers civilian life as well. If you can wonder it, this can answer it. Especially helpful for military weddings from addressing invitations with rank (who first, Dr. or Lt?) to the saber arch and guest seating.

Basics from the Barracks: Military Etiquette and Protocol (A Quick Guide) (Free download)
The spouses at the Army War College put together a basic guide in 2011, which covers convention as well as general etiquette. I, personally, couldn’t find whether to bring a hostess gift to a Christmas reception in Service Etiqutte and had to phone a friend. I wish I’d had this handy free pdf back then.

Deployments
Separated by Duty, United in Love (by Shellie Vandevoorde, $3.98 on Amazon)
Really practical information, from OpSec, to the different ways your family is likely to cope with separation, to tips on staying sane.
Faith Deployed: Daily Encouragement for Military Wives (by Jocelyn Green, $8.99 on Amazon)
A topical guide to the spiritual issues of military life with brief devotions by wives from all branches of service that include scripture and questions for reflections.

PTSD/Reintegration
Love Our Vets: Restoring Hope for Families of Veterans with PTSD (by Welby O’Brien, $11 for hard copy, Amazon)This is a phenomenal resource, which is free to borrow for Kindle device owners. The Q&A format keeps it simple, and it is in depth without being full of jargon, and shares vignettes without being patronizing. From a mental healthcare perspective, I highly recommend it, even for family members who are struggling to figure out what difficulties are “normal.”
The U.S. Army Reset Handbook (Free download)

This 36 page pdf cover’s the Army’s guidance on physical, emotional, social, and spiritual health for soldiers and their families during the redeployment and post-deployment process.

Family Readiness Group
Free PDF downloads of handbooks from the Army War College (Spouses Publications):

This link includes free pdf download of the past decade of publications, including 4 great handbooks: the Spouses’ Battle Book, Company Commander’s Spouse Battle Book, A Leader’s Guide to Trauma in the Unit, The U.S. Army Care Team Handbook, and others.

Happy reading!
P.S. I was not compensated for any of this, I just want to share the books and guides that I personally have found helpful, because there are so many on the market.
Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s